The reason why many men no longer personally appeal to women is the fear of rejection. Many do not take it anymore, because it is now easier. Dating apps, social media and co. Make it possible. The safe distance and the knowledge that both are visually appealing, gives a sense of security. The chat offers time to think about a good answer and hides the nervousness behind a virtual veil. However, when it comes to the meeting, the good old art of flirting is still required. In addition, many women are rather skeptical about first contact via the Internet. It is precisely this social condition that you should use to stand out from the crowd and successfully make a first personal impression. My following 9 tips will help you learn to flirt properly.
Overcome your speech anxiety
Practice creates masters. If you have trouble addressing women, before you start flirting you should learn to make a sustained conversation flow. It is about harmless conversations in everyday life. Initiate situations in which you can address women, for example, at the train station or on the train, at work or in the city. Think about a few questions in advance. How exactly you start the conversation is not so important at first. The art now lies in maintaining and developing a conversation after their answer, even if their answers offer no concrete potential. Just a few minutes are enough to practice. It is important to increase with time, to prolong and deepen the discussions. If it does, calm down and ask for a date. What else can happen except that she says no? Every conversation with a woman gives you more routine and ultimately leads you to success. Here’s an example of how to thread a simple conversation with a woman.
A train ride is ideal for a flirtation. Although you are sitting right next to her, you are not intrusive. The inhibition for her to physically dodge you is greater than in the city, when she’s in a hurry anyway. It’s unlikely that she’ll just get up and act.
For example, start the conversation with “May I sit with you?”
And continue the conversation directly. If you sit down first and then think about what you could say, more courage is needed to start a new conversation, since there has already been silence between you.
You could ask her directly where she is going or where she came from and tell her where it is for you.
Even if you see a woman with a heavy suitcase, you can offer her your help and then sit down with her.
The conversation starter
In order to learn how to flirt properly, the second step is to improve the conversation. Try to stand out from others and be original. Give up clichéd sayings or phrases. Lies are also quickly recognized by women. Also, it does not always have to be a question that you confront them with. Statements are just as suitable as stimulants. If you want to compliment her, make sure you do not apply too thick. Proverbs like “You have the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen.” She’s certainly heard more often and will put you in a drawer. It is always helpful to pick up the situation. Create the potential of your environment and engage it in a conversation. Look at it inconspicuously. If you notice something special about her that might reveal something about her personality, talk to her.
Personality relationships lead to success faster than flat statements about their body.
A self-confident man is not so easy to dismiss. He also identifies masculinity and leadership potential – qualities that most women appreciate about men. Even if you’re really nervous, you should not show it too much. Otherwise, you value yourself and she could conclude by your uncertainty that you also think that you can not enrich your life. Of course, it is also important to find a healthy average. Extreme overestimation or megalomania are by no means sympathetic features. Self-esteem should not express itself as a form of self-love. Subtle proofs of your independence are sufficient. If you address them confidently, make concrete statements or suggestions, and do not immediately abandon them at the first “no”, you prove willpower and are more likely to succeed.
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Learn flirting: Less is more
To make it clear that you are interested in her, it does not always take a mountain of compliments. After all, they should not be self-evident to them and have value. In addition, you value yourself by idolizing them from the beginning. As a rule, women are more likely to be complimented than if they did without much effort. Of course that does not mean that you should not show her your appreciation. Through action and body language you can better prove to her that you are really interested in her than in words.
Not to be ignored is that in terms of styling less is more. In general, the following points should be noted: