Hey, are you struggling to find a girlfriend ?
Worry not, I’m here to teach you the tricks, no worries in this massive guide you will learn the steps!
It’s harder to turn women into your girlfriend if you already know her. Mostly, the fear of overcoming is even greater, they suddenly ask for a date. In addition, the famous friendzone could get in your way. Therefore, most singles try their luck with strange women, with whom it is easier to enter into a flirtation right from the start. Below we’ll tell you where to find a girlfriend, which tips can help you make a flirtation more and which no-gos you should avoid.
Tip #1 – Overcome your fear
Most men are excited when talking to a woman. Some have learned to hide it well. This is not about pretending, but simply developing routine and not allowing your excitement to take possession of you. After all, you can also be nervous without obviously putting it outside.
The very first step is flirting. Flirting is basically the basic requirement to find a girlfriend. If you are afraid to talk to women at all and keep them from having a conversation, you should practice first. You can do that in ordinary everyday situations in which you arbitrarily address a girl. It’s not about what she looks like or what you can imagine with her, but about getting in touch with a woman without losing her composure. Over time, you become more confident and your whole demeanor changes.
Tip #2 – Practice creates masters
After overcoming your fear of addressing women, it’s time to improve your flirting skills. Even if you have no rhetorical talent, you can improve your flirting behavior through practice. Here you should address women you are really interested in. It should become clear during the conversation that you have no friendly intentions. So you circumvent the possibility of a friendzone and know directly whether you are interested in you or not.
A good flirting exercise is to smile while you look her in the eye. A subtle but conscious smile shows her that you find her sympathetic and that she enjoys your full attention. The direct look in the eyes shows that you are self-confident. If you realize that she escapes you intimidated or can not stand your gaze, that’s a good sign that you have opportunities with her. Even if you smile every now and then, when you smile, you can say that as a positive sign.
Tip #3 – Attack situations
If you want to find a girlfriend, you should not approach her too briskly. While startups may be a fun conversationalist, if you do not understand your sense of humor, you could quickly have missed your chance. To be on the safe side, you better pick up a situation to start a conversation. For example, ask her on a train ride if she should carry her suitcase or in a shop if she can help you find a nice shirt.
Tip #4 – Physical contact
If you want to find a girlfriend, you should always proceed with care. Everything should be done step by step. This applies both to the establishment of a conversation and to touch. If you greet her out of nowhere and suddenly touch her at the waist, she will certainly shy away. But once you get into conversation with her and after a while touch her arm, you have better chances.
You should have read enough theory for now!
Now you should definitely start being active that means to step by step out of the comfort zone NOW !
Remember, if you want to pick up all those pretty ladies, you will HAVE TO step out of your comfort zone.
But hey, where do you find a girlfriend ?
Okey okey you may ask, ok good tips, but dude where can I find the right girlfriend?
If your whole life is just between your appartment and office, you need to go out!
I repeat and I am serious about this. “You should go out!”
Here are few tips (thank me later):
So let’s start without further ado…
Bars & pubs
One of the classics, of course. Get to know women in the evening with friends and go to bars and / or discos.
The big advantage in these places of night life is, of course, that women are prepared to be flirted with. Of course, many women have the same intention as you do, namely getting to know men. That of course makes the whole thing a little easier.
You can have a good time in a relaxed atmosphere in the bar / pub. You sit e.g. at the bar, a woman next to you. You could get in touch with her, e.g. ask what kind of interesting cocktail she has there. Whether she can recommend that. Then you can start the conversation, for example, in the direction of cocktails / drinks / comparison with other bars, etc. and you have already started a conversation in the bar with an interesting woman.
But please do not come up with the idea of making the still widespread nonsense and asking the woman whether you can “give her a drink” just to get in touch with her. Women are usually not for sale.
Discos (night life)
In the disco, getting to know women is of course more based on the physical level, since large conversations on the dance floor are usually difficult.
However, women are probably the most prepared to get to know men here. Many of course only go to the disco with the intention of dancing, but usually everyone should go to the disco in the first place to dance.
The best way to get to know women in the disco is on the dance floor. Here you should have a look around. If you have interesting women nearby, you should first make eye contact with her before you hug her. Just look over at her with a smile when she looks back, keeps her eyes short and when she is not making a dismissive gesture or something similar. you can usually understand that as an invitation.
Best approach is to dance a little with her. After a bit of dancing you can suggest drinking something. If possible, you should go to a quieter area of the disco so that you can understand each other.
Get to know girls at private parties
This one is a BIGGIE …
Attending private parties is certainly one of the easiest and best ways to meet interesting women.
For sure, someone from your friends is organising a party and you are invited.
If you already know the host and other people, you can join them / have a chat first, so you already have a certain status that women will notice.
I do not recommend of course, just to sit alone somewhere in the corner and wait for someone to come to you.
So if you are an introvert or you hardly know any people, introduce yourself to most people and especially women: “Hello, I’m Bob” – shake hands, etc.
If it turns out, it is good to immediately start an ongoing conversation or to start a conversation with a person “How do you know the host?”, Etc.
Ideally, you can start a conversation with one or more women. More or less consciously, women notice men who are in “women’s clusters”, i.e. talk / stay in a small group with several women. If you are too shy to get to know a certain individual woman, you can of course only talk to women who might be a little less interesting to you in order to get to the top through the “women’s cluster phenomenon” (but of course also avoid podium thinking here) to get to know the women that are really interesting for you.
Otherwise, you shouldn’t be talking to just one person all the time. It is best to change here so that you are optimally registered by the majority of the party guests. The whole thing then usually becomes a no-brainer and the women will also speak to you automatically if they have noticed your “status” at the party.
Oh yes this is classics, thanks to Internet….
Certainly one of the easiest ways to “get to know women“, especially for shy people or people with little experience with women. It is therefore quite legitimate to get to know a woman on the dating site. You don’t have the “problem” of responding, which for many people is sometimes the biggest problem when actively looking for a partner.
Of course, you should work on yourself if you have problems with addressing women in real life, but better than not getting in touch is definitely the letter of a woman in a dating site.
Get to know women In the single exchanges you should get a reasonably filled profile so that you make yourself interesting.
When writing to a woman, you should avoid using 0815 one-liners like “Hi, how are you?” It is enough if many other types do it and bore the woman with it.
Try to find something in your profile that you use to write to them, e.g. if there is anything striking about her profile picture or if she shares any interests with you (hobbies, etc.).
Ideally, you will find something you can use to wind it up; if you cannot find anything, you can e.g. assume that you only pretend to be a woman and is actually a guy. Then she will want to refute it and you have a first entertaining basis for discussion.
Basically, you shouldn’t spend too much time writing. Typically, 3x back and forth are sufficient to suggest that you call each other on the phone. Ask them for the phone number and say you will call them soon.
When talking on the phone, you should be able to talk very easily, just like with a normal friend, just talk freely about something. When starting a conversation, it usually makes sense to start with what is written in the single exchange.
Do not keep the conversation too long and, if possible, end it by telling her that you want to get to know her better and suggest a meeting.
The biggest advantages of the online dating for you:
- you come into contact with a large number of women and do not yet have to overcome the major hurdles such as fear of response
- accordingly, many dates can jump out if you only want to. At the beginning, however, one should not only concentrate on the most beautiful women, sometimes a really likeable girl turns out to be the women who do not look so interesting at first glance . Because as I said, it is important to start with simply letting a lot of women into your life and gaining experience
- The costs are comparatively low for the benefit that you get with this type of partner search.
How many times have you been to the club, spent 100 bucks and had no real contact with a woman because you didn’t dare do what? From this point of view, a monthly contribution in a single exchange (usually half the cost of a club visit) would get in touch with hundreds of women if you only wanted to.
Get to know women on the street!
This is my secret tactics as not many people do that, but it works pretty well, because you literally don’t have any competition!
On the other hand it is certainly the option that most people find most difficult when they actively try to get to know a woman.
The possibilities here are almost unlimited. Good options are e.g. in the supermarket or in the clothing store. Here you can try to approach a woman in order to get advice from her.
“Do you think the t-shirt suits me …” or “Do you know anything about wine, I just don’t know what criteria I should look for, …” etc.
Such pretexts can be used well in shops to start a conversation.
Get to know women Direct contact on the street, e.g. in a pedestrian zone is sometimes the hardest, because the women are not prepared to be addressed and involved in a flirt and are also mostly on the go to get something done, little time, etc.
A woman will be all the more impressed if you address her on the street. The best thing to do is to get them to stop with a signaling hand movement, e.g. So “Hey, very briefly …” => It stops =>
Here you can either see whether you can find an excuse again (“Where’s the next cafe, etc … ..”) and enter the conversation almost indirectly, or what is usually more sensible, you immediately say that you noticed it / you find her pretty / cute and would like to get to know her.
Almost all women respond positively, even if they already have a boyfriend or are not interested. You get really negative reactions, if at all, only from women with bad character or bad mood (which of course you can’t do anything about).
You can then hold a short small talk and then don’t necessarily stop it for more than 5 minutes and ask for the number quite quickly, e.g. so:
“Ok, I don’t want to stop you any longer, I have to keep going myself. What do you think of it if we just meet for a coffee over the next few days? “- You:” Yes, of course gladly “- YOU:” Ok, it’s best to type your number into my cell phone, then I will call you the days at times. Ciao. ”
If possible, you should always get YOUR number and not just give her your number, as many don’t dare to call on their own or forget it, etc.
Your secret weapon is called “SELF-CONFIDENCE” !
No woman wants a man by her side who only complains about herself or talks badly and exudes a lack of self-confidence.
And here we come to the point. If you think now where more self-confidence should come from, if you were perhaps not so successful with women otherwise and accordingly had problems finding a girlfriend …
Self-confidence and (very important) a positive charisma are generated by the fact that you are basically convinced of yourself . That you believe in yourself, that you have goals in life, that you can be proud of something, that you are generally satisfied with your life. And that is ultimately the key to a large part of your own attractiveness .
Women like successful men – and those who are happy with themselves are successful.
If you say now that I am not satisfied with a lot in my life (in addition to the missing girlfriend), change that => IMMEDIATELY. For example, Are you overweight, , then loose some weight. Are you dissatisfied with your professional life => quit your job now, continue your education. Is it boring more often => get new hobbies, etc. etc.
Remember: “Do not put a woman on a pedestal, no matter how pretty and attractive she is!”
Most men when they meet a pretty woman they would adore her because of her external attractiveness and “do everything for her” just to get their attention , that is, put her above themselves. The thoughts that come up often look something like this: “I’m sure she’ll only look for the prettiest and most attractive men, I don’t have a chance anyway.” probably not more. ”
Let us now imagine that there would be a woman there who is less pretty and attractive, where you might think rather the opposite that YOU would be a ” win ” for you and that she could be happy to get “you” (sounds stupid, but basically these are the thoughts that often happen inside).
I wish you success and fulfilling relationship!